What You Know Affects Treatment


Susan Weinstein, JD
Editor in Chief, Care for Your Mind

It’s hard to make good decisions when you don’t have good information. And in a system where healthcare providers have less and less time to provide the information necessary for good decision making, it falls to individuals and their supportive family members and friends to be proactive in getting the information they need for making informed healthcare decisions.

Care for Your Mind is a strong proponent of shared decision making in depression treatment, the process through which providers, people living with depression (i.e., patients), and families engage in discussion about available alternatives, their pros and cons, and how those choices fit with the patient’s goals, priorities, and preferences. We also live in the real world, where not every provider is committed to shared decision making, not every person has a full range of treatment options available to them, and not every provider who would like to engage has the time required to undertake this thoughtful process.

According to Utpal M. Dholakia, Ph.D., “A good decision is one that is made deliberately and thoughtfully, considers and includes all relevant factors, is consistent with the individual’s philosophy and values, and can be explained clearly to significant others.”

People living with depression can, in collaboration with their providers and ideally their supportive family members, make good decisions about treatment. We’d like to help equip them for this process. In order for people to advocate for tailored and appropriate care, they must know about depression.

Know About Depression

A person with depression might experience a variety of symptoms, such as loss of interest in previously-enjoyed activities and people; negative, sad, irritable, or angry mood; lack of self-esteem; feelings of hopelessness or guilt; and thoughts of death or dying. They might also have changes in eating or sleeping habits; weight increase or decrease; gastrointestinal issues; problems with fertility; decreased libido; and headaches, stomach aches, and muscular and other bodily pains without medical explanation. Often, people with depression will isolate themselves from others. Abuse of alcohol and other drugs is common among people with untreated depression. They may engage in non-suicidal self-harm, they may experience suicidal ideation and even suicidal behavior.

Note: If you are in crisis, get help! In the U.S., call 1-800-273-8255, chat online at suicidepreventionlifeline.org, text HOME to 741741, call 9-1-1 for local emergency services, or go to the closest hospital emergency room. If someone you know is in crisis, support them in getting immediate help.

Frequently, people who are stressed have difficulty thinking clearly. Depression, too, impacts thinking functions such as reasoning, organization, attention, and memory. (Families for Depression Awareness refers to these as the “ROAM” symptoms of depression and offers several resources on depression-related cognitive dysfunction in the “More Than Mood” toolkit.) Many otherwise loving and supportive relationships have suffered because it’s not well known that people experiencing depression can have trouble concentrating, prioritizing, putting things away, and remembering tasks.

Identifying and keeping track of the severity of your (or your loved one’s) symptoms helps conversations with providers be more productive.

Recognize How Depression Impacts Your Life

Depression often has a kind of ripple effect, with its negative impacts spreading beyond the person who has been diagnosed to their relationships at home, in social circles, at work, and in nearly every arena in which that person operates. At home, depression can affect a person’s ability to engage, communicate, love, nurture, contribute, partner, and parent. Take, for example, Lyn’s story:

Lyn’s first experience with major depression came when she was a single mother of three in her twenties struggling to keep her head above water. “I wasn’t really functioning,” Lyn remembers. “I was sleeping all the time. I couldn’t tell you if my kids were bathing every night or what time they went to bed.”

At work, depression impacts attendance, productivity, and tasks involving executive function skills. Then Director of Behavioral Health Services at Prudential, Shirley Cresci commented, “Too often, I see employees waiting to seek help; by the time they do, their work performance is suffering. I also see employees who are struggling but flying just under the radar, not yet impacted by poor performance reviews.” She continued:

I remember one young man who came to see me. This was his first job and he was suffering, but he didn’t know how to explain what he was experiencing. After an assessment, I told him he was showing classic signs of depression and explained this is something that can be effectively treated. He felt such relief to know there was a name for it. He went on to get some counseling, started medication, and came back and said, “I never knew I could feel this good.”

Jorge Petit noted that “a person’s employment is actually one of their defining characteristics: we spend most of our waking time at work and our work gives us a sense of purpose, identity, and value.”

It’s important to consider each of life’s spheres and how depression has affected participation and enjoyment.


Having a strong sense of the relevant symptoms and understanding the impact that depression has on a person’s life provide a solid foundation for constructive engagement with one’s healthcare provider. With this information, a person is better situated to name realistic treatment goals – such as what they used to be able to do but are not currently able because of depression – and consider their priorities and preferences for treatment. Which side effects – e.g., weight gain, drowsiness, sexual dysfunction – would be tolerable? Which are less preferable? Which are absolutely unacceptable?

(Editor’s Note: Again, though we recognize there are several proven interventions that help people to treat their depression, here the focus is on medication.)

In reviewing treatment alternatives, a healthcare provider shares their expertise so that the person with depression (and their supports) can better weigh pros and cons of different treatment routes.

We’ll continue to explore these issues in upcoming posts.


What do you think?

What information about depression should people have before they see a provider?

What has helped you to advocate for your care (or the care of a loved one)?

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Additional Reading

Sagar Parikh, Depression Costs the Country Billions in Lost Productivity.   It’s Time We Started Helping People Get Back to Work

Ken Dolan-DelVecchio, Why Work Matters: Rethinking the Role of Work in Mental Health Treatment

Marcas Miles, It’s Good Business to Support Mental Health in the Workplace

David Guterson’s story of family, depression, and treatment

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